I’m lucky. Blessed. Fortunate. All of it. I know. Believe me I know. Being a mom is an amazing gift that I know so many women would give anything for. And I’m grateful for my son. I’m grateful to be pregnant with a daughter.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t struggle. It doesn’t mean there aren’t days where I just don’t want to do it. Days I want to roll over on my stomach and just sleep. In my own bed. Without a toddler crawling on me.
And that’s ok. It really is.
When mom’s admit that they are struggling and we try to remind them how fortunate they are, it’s not helpful. Struggling doesn’t make you a bad mom. Or an ungrateful or undeserving mom. It makes you human.
So the next time a mom says she’s struggling, don’t tell her why she shouldn’t feel that way. Acknowledge that motherhood is hard. Really really freaking hard. And offer encouragement. Or help. Just listen to her. Because often our biggest struggle is not feeling seen or heard. A little validation goes a long way.
If you are reading this and you’re a struggling mom, I see you. I am you. Some days just plain suck. And those days can really pile up. And the more those days wear you out, the worse you feel, the less patience you have, and then you feel like a worse mom. It’s a tough cycle to get out of. The.
But you are a good mom. In face I would bet you are a great mom. No matter how it feels right now. Struggling and feeling like you are drowning in motherhood doesn’t change that.