I never thought I would be the person who was moving home for deployment. It just wasn’t “who I was.” To be totally honest, I even had a post thought out talking about all the reasons I wasn’t moving home.
But sometimes you have to let go of who you think you “are” and roll with what makes the most sense.
Why I’m moving home during deployment
The big picture: it’s just makes more sense. If you are having this debate with yourself, hopefully this will help you work through the pros and cons. There is no right and wrong choice and there is no shame in being the spouse who goes home. And there’s nothing wrong with staying where you are either!
But here’s a few of my reasons:
I’m moving in with my mom which means we can pocket BAH while my husband is gone. Since he is doing a rotation rather than a deployment, we won’t get the usual pay incentives that come with deployments (hazard pay, no taxes, etc.) So saving BAH makes the most financial sense.
Now BAH at Fort Hood is not a lot of money so we defined had to look at the cost of storing our things and the actual trip home and back. But in the end the difference was substantial enough to make it worthwhile.
My child isn’t in school yet
Oliver is still young enough that I’m not really uprooting his life in a memorable way. He has a couple friends here and we have a routine, but it’s not nearly as big of a deal as it would be if he was in school and we were changing that on him as well.
I know in a few years I won’t have the option to go home during a deployment because Oliver will be in school and I don’t want that upheaval for him. But for now I am able to take advantage of the opportunity.
To be honest, Texas and I need some space
I miss mountains. And seasons. And I’m just over frying to death 7+ months out of the year.
We’ve been in Texas for about three years and I’m ready to change it up. I’m totally cut out for the military spouse life because I don’t like to stay in one place too terribly long! This will give me a nice break to go back to a totally different place! Maybe I’ll decide I like snow after all….or after winter I’ll be ready to come back to TX and roast.
Help with kids
My mom doesn’t work so I will have her to help me pretty much any time I need. This is a huge huge factor. As much as I love being a stay at home mom, solo parenting is exhausting. And right now it can feel really overwhelming as my tired body tries to keep up with an increasingly wild toddler. (Also my mom takes great pictures so that’s a side bonus lol)
Plus with a newborn it will be really nice to have another set of hands. I’m hoping this baby sleeps better than my son did when he was a baby…but if she doesn’t at least I’m not trying to do it alone.
Time with family
As a military spouse, this is something that you never know how much you’ll get in the future. If we get sent over seas for my husband’s next duty station it will be super difficult to get back to visit.
That just makes me more thankful that I am able to take advantage of this opportunity. I get to spend time with my family and our kids do too. There are no words for how happy that makes me.
There are, of course, a million other little factors. But those are the big ones that helped me decide to move.
I want to hear from you! Do you stay or move during a deployment? What deciding factors do you consider?
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