So today is the last day of 2018…which means everyone else is going to be making their resolutions for 2019 tomorrow. But how can you set goals for the year when you have absolutely no idea what the year has in store? As a military spouse you might be asking yourself if it is even worth making resolutions. And I am here to tell you that it can be!
In the civilian world, there is usually some level of predictability and stability. Resolutions to cook at home more often aren’t met with orders for a PCS overseas (where you might be lucky to get household goods before the year is over lol). If you say you are going to go to the gym every day, a civilian spouse probably won’t be sent to training for two months leaving you home solo-parenting.
So where does that leave us as military spouses? Resolutions may not be such a great fit for an unpredictable life…but if you get creative with your goals, you can make it work!
Spoiler alert: I am making one of my big goals for 2019 happen tomorrow so be sure to stay tuned. There might also be more goal setting info involved. Just saying 😉
So, let’s talk about three key components of attainable resolutions for a military spouse!
Adaptability is Essential
Life changes ordered by the military (PCS, deployments, training, etc.) are often stressful and can cause a lot of emotion. Realizing that the changes also mean giving up on your resolution can add even more negativity to the situation. So as you are making your goals for 2019, make sure they are something you can continue if your circumstances change.
You are in control
As As military spouses, there are a lot of things in our lives that we are not in control of. So don’t set resolutions that are reliant on those parts of your life. Going back to my previous tip, your resolutions are much more likely to be adaptable if they center on things you are actually in control of. A resolution to be more intentional with investing in your marriage is much more likely to work out than a resolution to have a date night with your spouse every Thursday. Because we all know the military gods will hear that resolution and die laughing right?
Have an accountability buddy
As military spouses we can spend a lot of time home alone. Without a witness we might slip back into our bad habits more easily. So if your spouse is not going to be home (which, let’s face it, will probably be the case for at least some part of the year) be sure to find an accountability buddy. Having someone to talk to about your resolutions can make you much more likely to follow through! Your accountability buddy might be a friend you see regularly or someone you text daily. Just make sure they aren’t going to be a bad influence on you instead!
Being a military spouse comes with a lot of challenges…and making resolutions can certainly be a challenge! However, if you take the time to make New Year’s Resolutions that fit your military spouse lifestyle, rather than fighting it, you can absolutely be successful!
I would love to hear from you! What are your resolutions/goals for 2019?